I found this saying on Pinterest and couldn’t agree with it more. What a nice reminder that we can only control ourselves. So often we get confused and try to moderate what we do to as a reaction to others. Editing our speech and behavior to please others is such a moving target. There is no way to say and do all the right things for any one person, except yourself. If we focus on approaching others from a place of love we can be assured that we are honoring all parties in the interaction.
Are you able to feel love in your heart before you engage in conversations? It is so much easier when you are sharing words of love and affirmation. It can get difficult when you are having a disagreement. Mediation before the conversation, thinking happy thoughts prior to and during the conversation and imagining the person as vulnerable child while talking to him/her can all be tools to keep your heart in a place of love. Practice with easier situations first to see how it feels then gradually increase the difficulty. Before you know it, your relationships will feel better or they may dissolve. If they dissolve they may have not been healthy in the first place.
You can even go back to conversations where you were not feeling love, apologize and try again. We are all human which means we need do-overs sometimes.